Keep it to yourself. Just kidding. Kind of.
I recently had a friend (thanks, David) challenge me to set some pre-30 goals for myself. I was a little offended when he handed me the piece of paper with headers like "Physical Goals" and "Career Goals." Uhmmm I have the body of a goddess and I lean all the way in. I don't need goals. And then I actually thought about it.
I had realized long before this that I was unhappy. In my personal life. In my career. With my body. In fact, for at least the last year I had been asking myself, "What the eff do I want?"
And I wasn't able to come up with an answer, in large part, because I was terrified of the unknown.
What happens when I admit that my career isn't where I thought it would be? What happens when I admit that I thought I'd be married by now (gross)? What happens when I admit that I hate my body?
I was afraid of the truth and how that would affect my life. If I acknowledged that I was this incredibly unhappy I would also have to acknowledge that a change has to take place. And change is scary.
So I'm not happy and I'm not clapping my hands. But in the spirit of my midyear resolution of trying to be more positive, there is a silver lining here. Because I'm actually going to do something about it.
I have many goals that I want to accomplish by the time I'm 30 and I have listed them all below (more so for my own accountability than your approval) but I wanted to talk about three of them that I think will resonate with a lot of you. So over the course of the next few weeks, I'm going to write about these three areas - what they are, how I'm going to accomplish them, and ways for you to accomplish similar goals.
I hope I challenge you to be a better version of yourself regardless of whether you're 27 or 72. I hope I challenge you to stop and take stock of where you are at in your life, wherever that may be. Life gives us endless opportunities to reinvent ourselves, I hope you jump at them.
30 Before 30
Stop judging my writing style (and accept the genre I'm most clearly cut out for)
Write a novel (AKA, actually finish one that I start)
Continue blogging at least twice a week
Obtain a management position
Cut out all dairy from my diet
Drink at least the daily recommended amount of water (I am so bad at this)
Drink less coffee
Regularly work out five days a week
Learn how to play tennis (I'm serious)
Be able to do the middle splits (Yup, serious about this one too)
Run a full marathon
Attend regularly scheduled check ups with a therapist
Wear more sunscreen
Visit Europe
Visit Asia
Vacation on the west coast
Move to NYC (eek!)
Pay off all debt (including student loans)
Acquire $10k in savings (which I should totally already have but Crate & Barrel exists soooo)
Acquire $5k in an emergency fund
Triple what's currently in my retirement account
Move into a one bedroom apartment
Go skydiving
Learn a second language (this one might be lofty)
Learn how to change a tire
Learn how to sew
Go on one date a month
Go on second dates
Stop ghosting on guys and actually tell them why I'm not interested
Stop taking it personally when someone isn't interested in me
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